这段Phoebe拒绝人的说话方式也是绝了，既拒绝了对方，还让对方无话可说。

Anal:
1.showing too much concern with small details,especially in a way that annoys other people-used to show disapproval.吹毛求疵的（含贬义）
Don't be so anal.
2.connected with anus:肛门的

spare；
spare someone's feelings: 照顾别人的感受，不使某人难过
a spare key/clothes：备用钥匙/衣服
Have u got any spare boxes?你有多余的盒子吗？
sorry,I can't spare the time我抽不出来时间

control freak: 控制狂